Most Common Things Married Couples Argue Over

Most Common Things Married Couples Argue Over

“You can’t win an argument.
You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it,
and if you win it, you lose it. ”
– Dale Carnegie

No matter how much a husband and wife love each other, there are going to be times when they disagree. But when those disagreements turn into arguments, it can turn ugly. There are many different reasons that couples argue, but certain topics come up more often than others. Here are some of the most common reasons that married couples argue.

Responsibilities

Chores can be a constant area of contention. When the responsibilities of the cooking, cleaning, dishes, taking out the trash, and the rest of the chores are distributed unevenly, it can lead to resentment and conflict. Not surprisingly, this causes fights and feelings of being unappreciated.

Family

Relationships with the in-laws, as cliché as it might seem, can cause many arguments between couples. Other family issues, such as differing parenting philosophies on how to raise the kids frequently cause arguments as well.

Money

The number one cause of arguments is money. In fact, a national survey showed that 27% of couples said that a disagreement over finances were most likely to erupt in an argument, averaging 3 arguments a month over financial issues. However, the older you get, the more frequent money fights can become. Couples between 45 and 54 say they average 4 money arguments a month.  Here are some other statistics about money fights.

  • One-third of couples say they have fights about not having enough money in savings.
  • 30% of couples have fights because of deceitful financial decisions, with one making secret purchases without telling the other.
  • Unexpected expenses cause arguments with almost half of couples.
  • More than half of the couples whose financial status has declined over the past year had a fight about money as a result.

These arguments aren’t always benign. Studies show that the number one cause of divorce is money. Money problems, and the resulting arguments about money, break up more marriages than any other issue, including infidelity. On the other hand, the average cost of getting a divorce in America is $15,000 to $20,000. It is a bit ironic that, in many cases, the result of the divorce causes more problems in the area that caused the divorce in the first place!

Experienced Divorce Counsel

While these aren’t the only things that cause arguments in a relationship, they are the most common. If arguments between you and your spouse have you considering divorce, don’t hesitate to contact us. The lawyers at Denney, Morgan, Rather & Gilbert understand that going through a divorce can be painful. That’s why we focus on our clients and their needs, not just getting them a check. To speak to one of our experienced divorce attorneys, contact us today.